You’ve heard them repeated on almost every movie or television show about weddings,
“I Jane take you, John to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish, from this day forward until death do us part.”
Sometimes there are religious or other personal vows added in, but in general, this is the traditional set of vows used by most contemporary brides and grooms today. If you are looking for a more religious set of vows, this traditional set may be for you;
“I John, take you, Jane, to be by lawfully wedded wife, my faithful partner and companion and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, in joy and sorrow. I promise to love, support and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.”
Vows can still also be traditional without running for many sentences and without lasting for a number of minutes. If you are nervous about remembering lines and want to make it sweet and simple, this traditional set of vows may be for you:
“I Jane, choose you John to be my husband, to love and respect you, to care for you in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, ‘till death do us part.”
If you still wish to writer your own vows, but want a very traditional feel, make sure that you add a few key elements in, like words that truly embody a long, lasting and loving marriage; respect, trust, faithful, cherish, love, honor, obey, friend, eternity, joy and so forth.
In order to keep your self-written vows sounding traditional, avoid writing silly lines or making jabs at each other (ie, “I vow not to use up all the hot water in the shower if you vow to take out the garbage!”) While these may be funny and touching inside jokes, they don’t go along with the ideas of “traditional” vows. If you are planning to have a very lavish and ornate wedding and traditional styles are important to you, leave the jokes for the reception.
Practice your vows with your partner and make sure that traditional style vows are right for your wedding. Make sure that you know what your partner is going to say in traditional vows so nothing comes as a surprise and everything runs smoothly.
In the end, if you can’t decide on your vows, then don’t feel bad if you use the time honored “till death do us part” set…it won’t make your wedding any less special. Decide what is right for you and your partner and enjoy writing and practicing your vows together!